It’s February and you know what that means… it’s the month of love. So, our inspirational word for this week is, you guessed it, Love.
And to keep with tradition, let’s look at this word ~
- a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
- a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection as for a parent or child
- sexual passion or desire
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- Strong affection towards others
- a person who is the object of romantic feelings; a darling, sweetheart, or beloved
- a term of friendly address, regardless of feelings
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There are so many more that I didn’t want to take up half this post with definitions. On to the rest of this post!
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Types of Love
As with most things, we divide love into categories. You may think that’s silly, but there are different ways we as humans love, and show love. Let’s take a look at some of them.
Interpersonal love refers to love expressed between humans. This type of love is expressed by family members, friends, and couples.
This is sexual or passionate love between couples. Some think of Cupid and their love arrows when romantic love is mentioned, but this is much deeper and more emotional than that.
The feeling of deep affection for your partner is something felt so far within, you can’t breath and your chest hurts just thinking about them. There really isn’t much more to say on this. If you haven’t experienced this, just wait, you will!
Ok, so it’s not quite can’t breath/chest pain type, but you get what I mean. There is nothing more profound than the love you feel for your partner, except perhaps the love you have for your family…
Love of Family
Like romantic love this is a deep affection for those within your family; what parents feel for their children and vice versa.
The love I have for my children is like no other. I would do anything for them. Well, I won’t do their homework for them… or their chores for them… or, well, you get the picture. I love my children, but they need to learn to do things on their own. None-the-less, the love I have for my children is right up there with the love I share with my husband.
I understand that some have a hard time with this one. Someone got hurt and the grudges have lasted months or even years. The thing is, there is nothing more important than family and though you have your differences, I’m sure deep down that love is still there. I hope those who are in this situation reconcile because there is nothing more important than family and though there have been issues, they are the ones that will be there for you no matter what.
I bet you all have those friends that you love spending time with, that will be there when you’re having a rough day or will make you laugh when all you want to do is curl up and cry.
Though you don’t have passionate love for them, there is still a deep affection for them that can’t be replaced. This companionship is a form of trust and dependability formed by mutual understanding of what a friend is and what that entails. You care as they do and your interests may or may not resemble each others. Those things you agree on are what makes you fantastic friends.
Love of Self
This is the love you have for yourself. Some may think that you don’t have any love for yourself. You don’t like the way you look, you feel you have to wear makeup every day to cover up what you consider blemishes or you feel you can’t do anything right. There is always going to be something about ourselves that we are not going to like, right?
Well, you may not ‘like’ yourself, but I bet you do love yourself. You have so many things going for you. I bet if you wrote down a list of pros and cons, you would come up with a long list of pros that would outweigh the cons. Don’t get me wrong, there are always going to be things I can’t stand about myself. I’m a little overweight, I could probably use some makeup and I’m a redhead, so I can have a temper, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love myself.
You have to make a choice to love what you have or change it. I’ve learned to love who I am. I may try to change some things, but that doesn’t mean I don’t love my previous self. How do you move forward if you don’t learn from the previous person you once were? Move forward and create a better, healthier, more lovable you. Write down the things you want to achieve and go after them. You’ll be glad you did.
Here you will find the love of all things nature, the love for strangers and the love of God. Now you may think that loving strangers is strange, but you don’t really know them, so how do you know if you love them or not. I’m going to go out on a limb and say that it’s natural for us to love everything. It’s a reaction of the first meeting that give you a judgment of whether you’ll continue to love, like, or dislike those that you meet.
Now, nature is another story. When I hear people say they hate nature, it kind of makes me laugh. If we didn’t have everything that nature entailed, we wouldn’t be alive. Plants and animals are what we as humans use to live on a daily basis, not just for food, but for clothing, furniture and even down to the things we use daily like pencils and paper. Yes, there are other materials we can use for some of those, but what about air, shelter and the basic things you feel you need to have to live. You may not like it, but you should love what it does for you.
This one could be included into other categories as additions, but it seemed appropriate to keep it to its own category. In this group, you have those moments before romantic love where within the relationship there is teasing, flirting, and seducing. Like courting, it is the journey of conquest and could include the motto of ‘no strings attached’.
It’s that playful time before commitment, where you’re learning each other and would be considered the best part of the relationship between two people. It’s where you are feeling each other out to see if something long term could be possible and what could be more fun than that?
Love of Work
Within this category you have a practical love that’s founded on reason or duty, fulled by one’s long-term interest. This is what you will do to make things work within any kind of relationship, whether it’s a work relationship, personal relationship, or mild acquaintance. Do you feel that you need to make a good impression? Do you worry about how others perceive you as a person? What drives you to make that first, second or even third good impression? The reason or duty you have to yourself or those around you or even to a company you work for may drive you to create a relationship that is beneficial to all those involved.
Which stage/category are you in right now? What do you believe is the right course of action within that category? Sometimes you just need a reminder of where you are and who you want to be. Trust yourself and the things you do. You’ll find you can love anyone, including yourself if you only look deep.