What It Takes to Be a Hero

The word hero means many things to many people. When we were children a hero could have been those you saw on television with supernatural power (or really cool gadgets). Always saving the day, they encourage us to strive to be better than we are.

But what about real heroes? If you had to give the meaning or example of a hero without using a fictional character. What/who would you say is an example?

Hero

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The Difference Between a Hero and a Champion

These two words are most often used interchangeably, but I’ve found that there is a very real difference to them.

A champion is someone who had become the best at something, using their skills and talents to defeat their opponents, stating that they are the best. A hero, on the other hand, is someone who is admired for their courage and bravery in times of trouble.

The Qualities of a Hero is Someone Who…

  • Loves others more than themselves
  • Believes in something so deeply, they will do what it takes to live up to that belief
  • Sacrifices themselves for that belief
  • Listens to others and encourages them, even though they have their own pain and grief
  • Remains humble throughout it all

What It Takes…

Training

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To be a hero in the eyes of others as well as yourself, it takes a lot. A lot of qualities, a lot of skills, just a lot! Below is a list of some traits and skills one must have to be a hero. (Or at least strive to achieve)

  • Courage
  • Dedication
  • Bravery
  • Selflessness
  • Belief
  • Sacrifice
  • Serve Others
  • Take Risks
  • Determination
  • Motivation
  • Love

Why We Need Heroes

As we’ve seen in TV, movies and even in real life, we need hero’s to encourage us to be stronger, to be there when we need them, to understand there are times we just need them around, not talking, not words, just their presence.

We, as humans, look to those we see as heroes for inspiration, admiration, and a picture of strength in our darkest moments.

That person who helps others simply because it should or must be done, and because it is the right thing to do, is indeed without a doubt, a real superhero

~ Stan Lee

Where We Can Find Heroes

Oh my goodness, why would I put this in here if we all know where we can find heroes? Well, you may be surprised by my next few words. Or perhaps you will be expecting them:

You can find them everywhere!

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I bet when I put that subtitle in there, the first thing that came to your mind was the newest Marvel Movie with all of its superheroes lined up to fight for the thousands of people within a city or the entire word.

Or perhaps you thought of The Lord of The Rings, where you have a ragtag group of beings that are destined for the same goal, but only two make it to the final destination. (Not saying that didn’t have help with a diversion, they were the only two who mad it to Mount Doom with the ring)

Even the smallest person can change the course of the future.

~ Galadriel – The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring

Where Are They Hiding?

Stories are build on heroes. They thrive on the the characters overcoming all odds to come out on top, to achieve their goal, to gain the object that has been their obsession for the last 200 or so pages.

Each and every movie, TV show, novel, short story, etc has a hero. The characters may not seem like your typical hero, but they are one, nonetheless. They are determined, even when things are dire and they feel there is no way forward. They strive to help others for the sake of providing a needed service, they listen and provide encouragement even when they themselves are in need of the same encouragement and they remain humble through it all.

You know what else, we have heroes in reality as well. Yeah, I know. Of course, we do. We see them on TV saving animals who’ve fallen into holes or a child in need of medical attention, I’m not bashing those in any way. I recognize a hero when I see one, but when you really look at your life, do you see any that are closer to home?

Is there anyone around you that makes a difference to your life, right now? I bet you can name a few. They are there for you when you need it, giving you advice, help, a listening ear, and more. Here’s another but… do you know what they are going through right now? Those people are the real heroes.

Even though they have problems, issues, struggles and hardship; they make sure they are there when someone needs them, like you. It’s not the talents (or superpowers) you have that matter, it’s how you choose to use your talents that make you a real hero. Each and every one of us has a hero waiting to be set free.

How You Can Work to be a Hero

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Though not everyone will gain the recognition of a hero, you can do small things that make you a hero in training or even a hero to yourself.

Let me explain: Because I’m not one to lead you into thinking you’ll never be a recognized hero to a whole town or city, I want you to think of this as a small step toward your goal. And who’s to say you aren’t already someone’s hero right now. It’s a nice thing to think about, isn’t it? Well let’s get started…

Be Your Own Hero

  • Everyone has things they hate to do, right? Talking on the phone, gardening, exercise, etc. Choose one of those things you hate to do and do one each day.
  • Work toward a goal. Like the stories you read, every hero has an internal and external goal. Discover what yours are and strive to achieve them.
  • Each of us has those bad habits we love to hate. Try each day to break that habit and make yourself a better person for breaking that habit.
  • Choose to live like a hero each and every day, exemplifying the traits and qualities mentioned above.
  • Find what fills your spirit to it’s fullest and do it.

Be Someone Else’s Hero

  • Do what you can to help others without expectation
  • Strive to be the change you want to see in the world around you. If you change, you’ll encourage others to do the same.
  • Strive to be the change you want to see in the world around you. If you change, you’ll encourage others to do the same.
  • Strive to perform random acts of kindness – you never know how important that one act can be to the right person at the right time.

Final Thoughts

You don’t have to be super to be a hero, you just have to be you.

Harmony

Harmony

Harmony, the thing we strive for, but rarely achieve. We may get glimpses of it, but then it slips through our grasp as everything falls apart around us. Of course, we won’t always have harmony in all things, but there may be some things we can do to create a closer relationship to harmony. Before we get into that, let’s take a look at what harmony is…

Dictionary

  1.  agreement; accord; harmonious relations.
  2. a consistent, orderly, or pleasing arrangement of parts; congruity.
  3. Music .
    1. any simultaneous combination of tones.
    2. the simultaneous combination of tones, especially when blended into chords pleasing to the ear; chordal structure, as distinguished from melody and rhythm.
    3. the science of the structure, relations, and practical combination of chords.
  4. an arrangement of the contents of the Gospels, either of all four or of the first three, designed to show their parallelism,mutual relations, and differences.

WIKI

  1. Agreement or accord. quotations 
  2. A pleasing combination of elements, or arrangement of sounds.
  3. (music) The academic study of chords.
  4. (music) Two or more notes played simultaneously to produce a chord.
  5. (music) The relationship between two distinct musical pitches (musical pitches being frequencies of vibration which produce audible sound) played simultaneously.
  6. A literary work which brings together or arranges systematically parallel passages of historians respecting the same events, and shows their agreement or consistency.

 

Finding Harmony

Some think you will never have harmony between things like life and work, but since your life is part of your work, I believe you can find harmony within each area of your life.

Spirit

Heart

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You, as a person, are in search of harmony in every aspect of your life, but have you really thought about what’s going on inside? Have you stop to think about the harmony you have within you and what you could do to keep your thoughts and feelings in sync along with everything else?

What can you do to balance those thoughts and feeling within you that are now out of wack? Well, I’ll give you some suggestions.

Take a Break

When you feel overwhelmed, tired, and have not motivation to continue. It’s time to think about taking a break to calm and rejuvenate your mind and body. There is nothing more important than what you do for yourself to stay energized and healthy. Sometimes taking a break, whether short or long, can help put your mind back in the right direction.

Deciding to take a break can be difficult and I encourage you to do so when needed. You may feel like work and life will just pile up while you’re gone, but if you put things in place before you go to keep things running, and know that some of those things you’ll still have to deal with when you return; you’ll find it’s not as bad as you think. You would have gotten that much needed R&R you needed and you’ll find that work/life did not crumble without you.

Listen to Your Heart

You have always had that passion for that one thing, right? Every time you have a minute to think, your mind goes back to it. You sit and wonder why you never pursued it, picked it up more, or listened when your heart begged you to move toward it.

No matter what that thing is, your heart is crying out for you to listen to it! Take some time to really listen and then go after what your heart is passionate about, even if it’s for small amounts of time. Schedule it in so that your heart is as happy as you are. You’ll be thankful you did.

Your heart is a powerful organ, it’s where your center is. Where everything you love is placed. Not physically, of course, but you understand what I mean. Don’t forget to listen to your heart, it’s what’s keeping you on track.

Know Your Purpose

You only have one life and you don’t want to spend it constantly worrying about what people say, how others are going to react, or if you’re doing the right thing at every turn. It’s going to cause you to lose your mind if you’re always worrying about the little things. When you know your purpose, you know what you’re doing is right and you don’t care one wit what others say or how they react.

You are doing what you are meant to, you’re following your heart and showing the world that your passion is worth fighting for. There is nothing more satisfying than completing something you’ve worked so hard to achieve, especially if that something is what your heart has been pulling at you to follow. Go after it!

Health

Health

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Like most, if not all things in your life, your health is important. Really, it is! You may not want to think about it, but if you’re not healthy, you won’t be able to stay in the harmony you’ve created. So, let’s talk about it quick.

Exercise

Yeah, no one likes to hear that they have to exercise, (trust me, I’m one of them) but it’s true. Even though I have a hard time sticking with any one exercise program, I always feel better and feel like I get more done when I’ve work out. If you want to get to the technical side, it’s a way to boost your mood since your body releases endorphins that create a happy mood.

Not only will you get stronger, more flexible, but your able to clear your mind while you exercise to create better flow in that mass we call our brains. It’s so full of stuff that’s important and things that aren’t, that they are starting to mingle together and this is a great way to untangle them.

The Mind

Your thoughts and how you think through problems are also important to every day life. Keeping your mind sharp and your thoughts free of negativity will help you create harmony within yourself, but more of that below. Exercise the mind along with the body so they can work together, not against each other.

Communication

Communication

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With Yourself

Another thing you don’t want to happen is to finish the Reeces because then you would be out completely and that is just not right! (I’m joking… maybe) Anyway, I lost my thought, but it’s back.

Have you ever thought Wow, I’ve gained a lot of weight. Man, that was stupid of me. I should really start wearing makeup, I might be able to hide some of those blemishes? What you say about yourself is only harmful to one person… yourself! Learn to love who you are. You should only want to exercise to feel better and stay fit, not because you’re trying to fix your weight. You’ll never stick to it that way.

What you’ve done may have not have been right, but use it as a learning experience and as for the third thought, really, do you need makeup? You were born with no makeup and you were beautiful. If you don’t want to wear it, don’t. You’re still beautiful.

With Others

Now, there are those words and phrases you say to others and as with yourself, you have the choice to voice them or not. Though thoughts hurt just as much. The words you say to others not only hurt you, but the people you’re speaking to or about. Those relationships you have with others, whether close or just passing smiles on the street are important to you and your growth as a person. You need others around to show you compassion, to learn from, and to love. Yes, there are times when you need to be on your own, but you can only do so much to lift yourself up. Those around you will do the same if they are treated with respect. You will receive the same when showing your considerate side.

Your thoughts and how you use them with words and actions are a powerful force. Whether you are using them for yourself or others, they can harm or empower, crush or lift. You get the picture. Thoughts you use against others and yourself should not have the chance to surface. By taking breaks when needed, exercising, and generally thinking before you speak, you should be able to clear your mind enough to bring forward the person you truly want to be. One that lifts up and empowers, not one that crushes and harms.

When your mind is clear of all the frustrations, anger and other bad emotions, you let the light shine on your words. Let your words work for everyones benefits!

How to Gain Harmony Within Your Life

Friends

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People

This one may be obvious, but those you talk to and those you interact with are looking for positivity within their day. Why not provide that small bit? Why not give them some positivity, something to brighten their day instead of bringing it down or not doing anything at all. You’ll be surprised by what you’ll receive by just giving someone a smile or a polite greeting.

If you feel you could do more, why not give someone an encouraging word or if you see them struggling and know how to help, do so. Don’t just walk by knowing they are going to continue to struggle. Not only will you feel good about yourself, which helps you, you’ll feel good about helping another and that helps them. See win-win, but don’t look at it for the benefit of you. Look at it for the benefit of the other and by default you will gain happiness and harmony with those around you.

Work, Home, and Play

Your work is part of your life, so why you feel you don’t have balance between these two is a bit mind boggling. It’s part of your day and yes, you can bring work home, you can also bring home to work in your words and actions, but that is life. Keeping them separate is just going to cause more stress. Why not work as if they are one and the same. Schedule work as part of your day, as it is part of your life.

Try not to talk about the two in their prospective areas if you want, but sometimes it’s necessary to gain a different perspective on a particular situation. Talk about it with those of your family and your co-workers. If they agree to leave the two separate, then try your best to do so. Otherwise, lean on those you trust for advice, jokes, and more. It’s not worth your frustration to keep the two separate when they are two very important parts of you.

As for play, well you need this in your life to relax and have fun, to release the stress of work and home life. Make sure you have enough in your day to keep the flow of things going smoothly. Find others that will make you laugh, that will brighten your day, and those you can hang with after work to give you some time away from home and work. Your family is a great resource for this. As spring comes around, my kids and I create a list of all the things we want to do during the summer months. Let me tell you they can come up with some pretty awesome things! Go ahead make a list and mark them off as you complete them. Plan them into your schedule and have fun!

Electronics

Here is another area you may need to find harmony with. We use electronics all the time, sometimes all day. You may not think about it, but how long are you really spending on your electronics. I have to admit, since playing Rise Of Berk ( I love HTTYD!) I’ve spent a lot more time on my ipad than usual.

Not only that, but I bet you’ve lost a lot of face to face contact with others, and I mean the in-person kind, not the FaceTime kind. Have you ever seen the ad where everyone is on their phones walking and there is a small child trying to walk though them. The child then stops and watches as person after person falls off a cliff because they are too focused on their phone. The child then sits down and cries for those who forgot the personal relationships and fun without electronics.

Perhaps you feel you need to schedule time to get off the electronics each day and spend time with friends or family. Or maybe you are just fine with how you are with your electronics and you like the solitary life you are living, who knows, but I encourage you to Think. Think about those connections you once had or if you were born with a phone attached to you, think of what it would be like to spend the day without one. No, it’s not devastating and you’re not going to miss anything you can’t catch up with later. Spend some time with others face to face and you may just find that you enjoyed their company and you may not have even thought about checking your FB, Twitter, or Instagram notifications. Go ahead, give it a try. I dare you!

Final Thoughts

So if you really take the time to think about it, harmony is how you create it and what you do within your life to keep ahold of it. No matter what you do, seek out the balance between the things you love (and/or need) and learn to live.

Affection

Affection like love is another word that is associated with this time of month, though I believe the two to be very different. But before we get into the details of that let’s get our definitions in.

Wiki

  • The act of affecting or acting upon
  • The state of being affected
  • An attribution; a quality or property; a condition
  • An emotion; a feeling or natural impulse acting upon & swaying the mind

Dictionary

  • A gentle feeling of fondness or liking
  • The act or process of affecting or being affected

Differences

Affection in all its wonder is sometimes, if not all of the time used interchangeably with love. Though they do have similarities and are closely related, they are not and should not be used in the same way.

Love is a strong feeling toward another with different levels or types of love being expressed at any given time. It’s the feeling you have for your significant other, your children or even your best friend or other acquaintances.

Affection, however, involves the little things. Those little details that tell another how much, or if you care at all. The actions and gestures that go along with those feelings. That is the difference between love and affection.

Benefits

Now, I’ve heard that there are benefits to expressing affection and receiving it as well. I won’t go into major details, but I found this fascinating. You can read more here.

Showing affection toward others has shown benefits, not just in making you feel good, but it can also lower stress hormones, lower cholesterol, lower blood pressure, and provide a stronger immune system.

This can also happen when chemicals release in your body as you express these through actions, not just when you feel them as you receive the affection.

Expressing Affection

Now, let’s talk about how you can express affection. As I mentioned earlier affection is all those tiny details you probably never or hardly ever notice you’re doing, but I encourage you to notice them the next time you are showing someone your affection. Showing your affection to another provides the feeling of intimacy, security, that they’re significant and shows a sign of respect depending on how the affection is being delivered and expressed.

The Small

small touches of affection

Affection can be expressed by the small touches, or even glances you give someone. A hug, a kiss, holding hands, a loving glance, an arm around the waist, a touch on the shoulder, a soft touch or even an occasional gift can show your affection to another.

The Large

What about those larger gestures, like passionate kisses that last, making out or even the friendly high five or shout of encouragement? Theses are also ways you can show affection and support of another person. It’s like showing in a story instead of telling. You show how you feel by what you do and the actions you take.

Platonic Gestures

Even things you wouldn’t think would show affection, do. Carrying things for another, opening a door, even doing things around the house for someone can show affection, like cooking, cleaning or doing laundry. Now I’m not telling you to go to your friends house and start doing their laundry (unless you really are that kind of friend), but think about those things you do for another that wasn’t asked or was just done to show you care.

Speech

Another way you can show affection is by the words you say, and how you say them. Yes, saying ‘I love you’ is affectionate especially if it’s given in a romantic whisper, but have you thought to send a message, even one saying ‘Hey, how are you doing today?’

The smallest note scribbled on a post-it can have the same reaction as an elaborate card with large letters. The person you’re leaving the note for or even receiving a text or email will show your emotional connection to the person receiving the small gesture.

Final Thoughts

So, when you think of affection, what types of things do you do to show your affection for others?